by Charlotte L. Hanna CMO/Director of PMR/CMBS Global
There are times when you probably wonder if there is anyone who appreciates you. I mean, really – who appreciates you more than you appreciate yourself, right? Why is it that we routinely hear of our shortcomings and rarely of our outstanding service or contributions?
Of course, you know, see, and understand all of the effort put forth by you – but there will always be those who are clueless as to what it is you actually bring to the table every day. Unfortunately, you could put all of your accomplishments on a huge silver platter in front of these types and they would still be unable to see past their own noses.
William James was known as the father of psychology and he believed humans all have a fundamental need to be appreciated. As a parent, I have seen this proven to be true, many times over, in the raising of my children. I could always get more cooperation, more effective results (and a lot more hugs and smiles) when I spoke words of appreciation and encouragement, rather than criticism cloaked as a “learning experience”.
How much do you show your appreciation to others for their efforts put forth? We like to talk about “processes” in the business world, yet do we really make room for others to “work through” their struggles – work through issues involving things they are trying to learn or skills they wish to become more proficient in? Appreciation encourages growth.
If you are an employer, remember that it can be frustrating and deflating when others expect results quickly and accurately, with little or no encouragement. People produce more from a place of feeling genuinely appreciated than they do from a place of discouragement or even oversight.
If you are an employee, don’t depend on those in leadership to inspire you – be inspired by the example of others who have been where you are and refused to remain there, unappreciated. There is no better reason to work hard and accomplish much than that of the self-esteem you will gain by doing so.
No one will ever appreciate you any more than the one who has walked in your shoes, been exactly where you have been and experienced all that you have experienced…and that would be YOU. Make appreciating yourself – and others – a daily habit.
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